Money Talk Matters

I was doing research earlier today and discovered this story titled More people are saying it: Is marriage a mistake? As a money and marriage advocate, you should know titles such as this ruffles my feathers. Even still I continued to read the story.

The story says, “Today, the typical American adult is unmarried, either living a solitary life or residing with unrelated persons. Marriage, long in decline, is now a minority institution and shows no signs of revival.”

This is my personal opinion – one of the main reasons marriage is in a decline and now a minority is because of the picture that is painted about marriage. Prime example is the article I just cited. Furthermore, Time magazine had a cover this week titled: Is There Hope for the American Marriage? Then it goes on to show photographs of 3 political figures and Kate and Jon Gosselin.

Alright – TIME OUT. My personal opinion, these couples and people do not represent the majority of the marriages in the United States.  They are not examples of every day households and therefore DO NOT get to be the rule for whether or not a marriage will work or if it is a mistake.

A marriage involves two people that takes work on the part of both people. Sure marriages have challenges which could be financial which if not handled properly can cause the marriage to end in divorce.  However, if the two people who took those vows are true to their vows and each other, then they will make the effort to work through the financial challenges together.

When infidelity is committed and the other person happens to find out via the media, then the faithful person has a lot to think about in regards to their health, if they choose to remain in the marriage or divorce and if there are kids involved what happens.  People need to be honest with themselves and not take their marriages lightly or for granted.

It sickens me that people have patterned their lives after television, politicians and celebrities. Live the life you are meant to live.  Your marriage is sacred and should be cherished, not easily tossed away at the first sign of a challenge. What does that say about you? One thing is for sure, people are always watching you whether its family or not. Whether you are a high profile person or not – people are always watching.

Marriage is not a mistake. Do not be swayed by what you see on television or read in the newspapers. There are very successful marriages out that involve everyday people.