Money Talk Matters

Well it must be my week to SPEAK up even more for the sanctity of Money and Marriage because I have read some articles today that I have to SOUND the ALARM. There I was minding my own business doing one of my favorite things, research. Of course when you research different topics, you are bound to find something that causes a stir.

Not only did this cause a stir but has caused me to say IF YOU HAVE to HIDE MONEY from your SPOUSE then there’s a strong chance you should not be married! Let’s define what a secret is. According to Dictionary.com a secret is cautious in keeping confidential matters confidential or keeping something hidden.

Let’s say for example that you came into your marriage with debt and you hid that from your spouse.  You managed to clean it up and continue to keep money hidden from him. What does that say about you? If you have children what message are you sending to them?

I read an article where this woman said her friend told her that she had some hidden money from her husband. Article – Are You Hiding Money from your Husband? Can one truly feel secure keeping money secret from their spouse? I would venture to say I don’t think they can. Security is a state of mind and does not necessarily happen because you have money. Look at all the people that invested with different investors that ended up in Ponzi scheme and lost the money.

I say to the person that has a secret account, what if something happened to the place where your secret stash was and it is all of a sudden gone, how are you going to act? Will your behavior change and you now become mad at the world, lashing out at people without explanation? Or will you come clean to your spouse? It is interesting the choices that people make for whatever reason and then do not like the consequences that result from those choices.

If you are adult enough to have  money secrets than be adult enough to acccept that it can lead to a can of worms once it comes out. Secrets normally have a way of coming out.