Stressing over Money while Dating a Single Mom with Kids
September 28, 2009 : Posted by: admin : Category: Personal Finances : Add CommentWell, I tell you what when I saw this question in my email box it stirred up several things in me. The complete question was this: Do I stress about money while dating a woman with children, could it be greed? Hmmm, why would you write me if you are going to answer your own question. Or is it because you think I am going to sugar coat the answer. Let me tell you, that does not happen on this blog and most should know that by now.
A single mother with children who is handling her business does not need in any way a selfish man in her life or the lives of her children. See it is not necessarily greed unless you are there to take money from her and prevent her from her handling her business. It is more selfish because you have turned into another child instead of a male who could be an example of a man handling his business.
Single mothers do not need distractions in their life. They have already been through enough which caused them to become single parent and are getting their lives on track and are making sacrifices for their kids. They are making sure their kids get everything that they need. Single mothers – if you are reading this, do not settle for less than you and your children deserve. It is soooo not worth it.
For those of you that do not know, I was raised by a single mom so I know firsthand what I am talking about. Single moms – everybody does not need and should not meet your children. Protect them. Everyone is not worthy of your precious children.
So for the male that sent that question in, you need to re-evaluate who you are and what you want out of life. Do not cause pain to someone else because you are in pain or have residual pain from a previous relationship.
Tags: children, male, money, single mom, stress, sugar coat
September 28th, 2009 at 11:25 am
This is great motivation for the single mother. The wrong man at the wrong time is a distraction and I’ve personally found that the “right’ man at the wrong time is a distraction. Love never takes away, it always adds value. If a single mother finds herself in a relationship with a man that is starting over, unable to carry his own weight, relocating, etc. Seek counseling. She does not have the 1) financial resources 2) emotional capacity or 3) time to help someone else. Single mothers must stay focused on their children’s well being and their emotional stability while working towards achieving financial independence. Great advice.