Money Talk Matters

Some of my readers know that our twins are taking a karate class. Well last week they got their karate uniforms which is called a Gi. The uniform has a belt that has to be tied a certain way which is called an Obi. Here is how this works, the twins went to class on Monday night and were learning to tie the “Obi.”

Today at the beginning of our homeschool class, I decided that they were going to show me that they learned how to tie the “Obi”. Of course the daughter does it within 15 minutes – 3 different times. It is now almost an hour later and the son has yet to do it once. What does this have to do with Money in Marriage? I am soooo glad that you asked.

Lesson 1:  We must listen to instruction. When husbands and wives are talking WITH each other about money and marriage we must listen. There are times when husbands and wives are sharing important information about money in marriage and our minds are focused on other things.

Lesson 2:  Money in marriage requires dedication and discipline throughout the marriage. It is not a one time discussion.

Lesson 3:  Our son has not once asked for help in getting the instruction again. Many times husbands and wives are having financial challenges and will not ask for help. Being silent creates more financial challenges and feelings being hurt in the marriage. This also happens because one or both made assumptions when it came to money and marriage.

Lesson 4:  Instead of becoming frustrated to a point of where you will not understand the lesson… step back from the situation and take a deep breath. Then come to the table with a new and clear perspective.

Lesson 5: I know, men and women are different, even when it comes to learning styles. Our son is a visual learner. Therefore, what I decided to do was have him tell me the steps in tying the “Obi” while I put it on. Afterwards, he could do it with me.  When it comes to Money and Marriage, husbands and wives should take the time to know what type of learner they are and what is the preferred method of communication. Then begin talking about Money and Marriage in that regard so that messages are received and ACTION can be taken.

Whoever would have thought lessons from an Obi could be applied to Money and Marriage. Soo having fun with what I do.