Money Talk Matters

Brides if you have a fiance that does not want to share money, what is the message that sends to you? Did you ask him why or did you jump to assumptions because he said he did not want to share money? Listen, before you go jumping off the handle and then getting mad with him, sit down and talk with him about the reason.

I also want to ask you why do you want him to share money at this point? You are engaged not married. What is behind your wanting him to share money? While you are engaged it gives you an opportunity to observe how each other handle money individually and not as a couple. Sure this is your future spouse but you both have your own income and are coming to the table with some sort of financial background.

Let me caution you, if the reason you want your fiance to share money now during the engagement is so you have more to spend you potentially could scare him away. Having access to more money does not necessarily make you a better money manager especially if you are a spender.

If he does not want to share money based on an experience he had with a prior girlfriend, even though you are not her, he is entitled to not share during this time frame. What have you done to prove to him that you are not going to do the same thing she did? Let’s face it, there are men and women that take advantage of each other when it comes to money.

I believe it is a great thing to discuss all of these varying topics that are centered around money because it shows you what is going to happen during the marriage. If you are openly talking about money while you are engaged, this gives you more of a headstart at solving financial issues during your marriage. You won’t have to get stressed about it because you are already in the mode of being solution oriented when it comes to finances.

That is one of the best things you can be is, be solution oriented instead of victim oriented. You finances and marriage depend on your being level headed as husband and wife in an effort to resolve financial challenges and move on.