Archive for September, 2010
Walk down the aisle in Fear of a Financial secret
Are you a bride to be and as you are approaching your wedding day, afraid your financial secret will come out? Before you decide to keep your finances a secret… take a look:
Money is the Elephant in the room in Relationships
Maybe it hasn’t been said before, but I am convinced money is that elephant in the room when it comes to relationships. Couples get engaged and they discuss money as it pertains to budgeting for the wedding. Yet, brides and grooms are coming to their marriage with some existing financial obligation whether it is student loan, credit card or even car loan… SOMETHING exists and not talking about it.
I’ve seen those comments that say we’ve been married only six days and are not going to make it because there is so much debt! I then think to myself the financial behavior did not occur in the last six days, you are choosing now to see it and have decided its too much.
There are also parents that are going through the stages of wedding planning with their daughters and they see how the daughter is overspending, yet they say nothing. Before you know it, some grooms call off the wedding because of the amount of debt being incurred.
Money is that elephant in the room in relationships because of FEAR. People are afraid to share their financial mistakes because they think they will be judged, the other person will leave or the other person will become angry.
Married couples don’t always communicate about money. Remember when the economy started dropping, there was a statistic that came out saying 3 out of 4 couples were arguing about money since the recession. Made me go hmmm, were they not even talking about money before.
Money is not an easy subject to bring up and YOU must start somewhere. Once you start, every time will get easier after that – the idea is to START and not let your marriage be bombarded by financial mistakes that happened prior to the marriage cause division during the marriage.
If you would like help with money and marriage communication, go to www.moneytalkmatters.com/products where you can elect to receive either premarital financial counseling or counseling.
You know it is there and needs to be discussed, yet the topic is avoided because of fear,
