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postheadericon Day 8 of Money and Marriage Talk with Eric and Taffy

Yesterday was quite busy. I had to go out to a meeting that morning, then return and do some follow-up emails. One of the discussion my husband and I were having as I was out that morning was what bills had been processed and he needed me to review a bill from his business account. He wanted to make sure he was right on what he had been charging a client for a specific job. There I was opening up one of my favorite programs – Quickbooks and doing the research. Easy enough!

Once I was out, I knew that I would have to do the banking at the end of the day instead of first. I was more than happy about that because I was on a MISSION! Once I’m on a mission, I will not be distracted. Went to the meeting and did what I needed to do. Then the kids and I headed back home. We already had a plan for lunch which having planned our meals for the majority of the week has helped out.

Believe me there is nothing like being real hands on with your finances. You know what comes in and what goes out. Makes it that much easier to plan and enjoy life. I was sharing with my husband on Day 7 – each day we have to make a choice when it comes to money. Do you pay this bill or do you not pay the bill and spend your money on something else. It ALL boils down to choices and what you want to experience in your life. Do you want to have a good quality of life, bills are paid, you can do what you want or will you choose to not pay the bills and be living a life full of stress and worry?

We often talk about brides and grooms, why some people hesitate in getting help? Let’s face it there are some people that are very comfortable struggling financially and being stressed. Now take a minute, because I didn’t say it was right but I am sure yo have heard there are people who don’t like trying new things. There’s usually a fear of the unknown when truly the unknown could be where you need to go.

Back to the money conversation we had today. Bills paid – check, where are we with the IRS — let’s return to that conversation. So once I told him about the IRS and we agreed to keep it between us, then the work really began on my part. I contacted the IRS and scheduled my meeting with them. Very thankful that it was the second week in May because I was due to leave for the Bridal show within three days after that phone call. Mind you, my excitement level was really high because I’d be debuting my latest book and I’d FINALLY get to meet one of my twitter friends in person.

Who would have known how much fun this was going to be. Did you notice that I didn’t let this notification nor phone call stop me from what I had already planned for the book, nor did I let it stop us from different things we had already planned for our twins. We continued to proceed right on with our plans.

Because they were auditing all of our businesses for a particular year, I had to spend a great deal of time pulling receipts, mileage charts, expenses and etc. I would hang out with the family and I went to the Blackbride.com Bridal show, met my dear friend Mary and had loads of fun. When I returned the work really began to locate documents, receipts, and all that fun stuff. Since I was the one that got all of our accounting records together every year, I had already shared with my husband that I would attend the meeting and handle things on our behalf this way he wouldn’t have to sit there with me and become frustrated. From my understanding of the video I watched, the meeting could take up to 5 hours.

So we agreed that he would keep the kids that day while I handled the meeting in May. I also would be meeting with our accountant once I returned so that he could give me some idea on how the meeting would go. Ladies and gentleman when you are not knowledgeable in an area – go to an expert and get some answers. It is worth the INVESTMENT! No need in creating a mess when you don’t have to.

Join me tomorrow as I share more about IRS.

Money and Marriage Lessons for today:
1) Do not tell everyone what you are going through when it comes to finances because they will express their fear and anxiety and if you are not careful, you will take on those feelings when they are not warranted.

2) Continue on with your plans whenever a financial situation arise. Believe me it is all in how you handle situations that determine how you will come out of it. Expect a GREAT report and it shall be. If you are expecting negativity and doom and gloom – so be it. You decide what you prefer to experience.

3) When a husband and wife are in agreement, they are UNSTOPPABLE!

4) Know each other’s strengths and weaknesses and work together accordingly.

Money and Marriage Encouragement Today: When a financial challenge arise, take the time to think about the big picture and consequences.

postheadericon Day 7 of Money and Marriage Talk with Eric and Taffy

OOH what a day. I was running literally from the time I got up and still going strong. Today was one of the goals was to make sure that the bills that had been scheduled to be paid a couple of days ago had cleared the account. Believe me, if you are not hands on when it comes to your money and marriage you wind up in unexpected financial situations that will not make you happy.

My husband and I talked about my checking the account and updating our records. Then we decided we would focus on the IRS. So let’s return to my telling you about the IRS. So on Day 5 I was sharing with you how we had gotten this letter in the early part of April saying that we were being audited. Did you pay attention to who I notified about this? If not, go back and read Day 5. Keep on reading because there are lessons to be learned even in that. Alright so as I continued to get prepared for the Blackbride.com First Annual Bridal Show a couple of days had passed and I was gauging my husband’s temperament each day as he came home from work.

I know from past history that April is one of his busiest months for his own business and we work hard getting through it. Now I had a new book that had just been released, he was really busy AND I knew that we had received this letter from the IRS but he didn’t. As the third day approached that I had it, he came home that evening and was relaxed. The day wasn’t stressful and he was on top of his game with his business. There I was no better time like the present, he will receive this information now and we will move forward.

As he was relaxing on our couch and we had talked about our accountant, I said to him look what we got in the mail. I proceeded to give him the letter. He looked at it and said We are being audited? I said yes we are and I have everything under control. Our businesses are being audited and I’ve already talked with our accountant. Once I contact the IRS, I will schedule a meeting with him and we will review everything. Then I proceeded to say to him we don’t need to share this information with anyone UNTIL it is over. Once it is over, we can share the testimony. He agreed and that conversation was done and we had dinner with the twins. Once dinner was over, we went on to talk about what else I needed in the way of handouts for my trip to Atlanta for Bride and Groom Money Talk FAQ’s booksigning.

Money and Marriage Lessons for Today:

1) Presentation about any financial issue is KEY! It is all in how you present it that makes the difference.

2) Make sure you know your spouse and continue getting to know them especially when it comes to money. How they will handle certain news!

3) When delivering information make sure that you are truthful about what you feel and not trying to fake it because it will be apparent if you are pretending!

4) Be sure you know who is on your team besides your spouse in case you need a certain level of financial guidance beyond your knowledge base.

5) When financial situations arise, it shouldn’t stop you from doing what you were in the midst of doing. Address the issue and keep on moving forward. Do not get “derailed” by an issue.

Money and Marriage Encouragement for Today: Each day our marriage grows stronger and stronger in the area of money and marriage! We are the DRIVERS of the bus and WE make happen what WE want!

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